This is a real issue and a real problem for those who have been hurt; for churches who inflicted the pain; and for churches who are trying to be faithful to the work of The Kingdom Of God who are ignored by those who have been hurt. In October of 2015 Jonathan Hollingworth wrote a great piece that I offer for your reading. Jonathan says it much better than I can. Here is the link: What Not To Say To Someone Who’s Been Hurt By The Church And remember:
Love God with all your heart. Love others the way Jesus loves you. And make sure all the glory goes to Him!